What Daughters-in-law Really Say About Their Mothers-in-law

By Esther Fein

70 pages, Photo and cover design by Esther Fein. Cover by: Dfus Noy
Printed in Jerusalem 2015
In her newest book, What Daughters-in-Law Really Say About Their Mothers-in-Law, the author Esther Malka Fein casts some new light on the age-old reputation of mother-in-law / daughter-in-law relationships. It is pleasantly surprising and refreshing to hear the positive and grateful voices of the many daughters-in-law she spoke with. When you take a look inside these pages, you will see what is possible when the relations are so willing and make an effort.
This book would make a smart and useful gift for a bride.
If interested in buying a copy, please email esthermalkafein@gmail.com

Excerpt


One of the things I admire most about my mother-in-law is her tremendous Emunah. She will always appear in my mind as a bastion of faith, a pillar of strength. It is difficult to enumerate the countless situations she has gone through in her life, from escaping post-Nazi Europe to losing a first-born son. Yet in every scenario, with the grief, with the tears and emotions, a stronger Jewess pulls through. While many people would allow these predicaments to hinder their happiness, my mother-in-law uses them to build herself and others. She trusts that all Hashem does is for the best. She has an overwhelming sense of care and concern for others, she is not overly connected to material possessions, and she constantly looks for the good in people. Any person who has ridden the path of her life and still exemplifies these qualities, is in my mind, a hero. I am honored to be related to this hero.
Wife, Mother, Teacher
Neve Yerushalayim Graduate,
Tel Zion, Israel


Her name was Ethel. She was a Holocaust survivor. Though married before World War II, she could not have any children. She went to her Rebbe to receive a blessing for a child. The Rebbe did not grant her wishes. During the war she was deported with her older and younger sisters to Bergen Belsen and Auschwitz. At the selection she let go of the hand of her older sister’s child. She claimed later that Eliyahu (Elijah) the Prophet requested so. She never saw her niece and older sibling again. Ethel and her younger sister saved many lives during their internment. The two sisters worked in the kitchen of the concentration camp, peeling potatoes, and stuffing the potato skins into their hemlines to feed others. After liberation, at the approximate age of forty-two, Ethel came to the United States and married a much older man, with six surviving children. Though Ethel was childless till then, at the age of forty-three, she gave birth to her only son, who later became my husband. We presented her with five grandchildren and many great-grandchildren. Ethel got to see much Nachas (joy from her offsprings) before her passing.
Resource Teacher
At Rosenbaum Yeshiva of North Jersey